Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his/her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him/her when you meet him/her.
2nd Secret: THE POWER OF RESPECT
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self respect, ask yourself, what do I respect about myself?? To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, what do I respect about them??
3rd Secret : THE POWER OF GIVING
If you want to receive one, all you have to do is give it. The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give you but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong and loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
4th Secret: THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must first love him/her for who they are and not what they look like. Friendship is the soild through which the love's seed grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
5th Secret: THE POWER OF TOUCH
Touch is one of the most powerful statements of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
6th Secret: THE POWER OF LETTING GO
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, then it's yours. If it does not, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, ego and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life!
7th Secret: THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word as it could be the last time you see him/her. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you love, who would yu call, what would say and . . . . . . why are you waiting?
8th Secret: THE POWER OF COMMITMENT
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
9th Secret : THE POWER OF PASSION
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences. When you feel passionate, spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same - all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
10th Secret: THE POWER OF TRUST
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, envious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him/her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, do I trust them completely and unreservedly? If the answer is no, then think carefully before making a commitment.
We are born with two eyes in front because we must not always look behind but see what lies ahead beyond ourselves. We are born with two ears, one left and one right, so that we can hear both sides, collect both the compliments and criticisms. We are born with a brain concealed in a skull, then no matter how poor we are, we are still rich and no one can steal what our brain contains. We are born with two eyes, two ears but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon. It can hurt, flirt and kill: remember - talk less, listen and see more. We are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs and it reminds us to appreciate and give love from deep within.
Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance, but in the heart. Real treasure lies not in what can be seen, but what that cannot be seen.Real love lies not in what is done and known, but in what that is done but not known.